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Love? What is it?

It’s the last day of the month that we all popularly call the #lovemonth so I thought it worthwhile to write about something that everyone is so hooked on – LOVE. So, LOVE? What is it really?

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LOVE? What is It?

Being in the social media era, I curiously searched what Google has to say, and here are the first few searches from the thousands that came up:

From Wikipedia:

“Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure. It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment.”

From Psychology Today:

“Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of deep fulfillment.”

From Merriam Webster:

“(1): strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (maternal love for a child) (2):  attraction based on sexual desire (3): affection and tenderness felt by lovers (After all these years, they are still very much in love.) (4): affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests (love for his old schoolmates) (6): an assurance of affection (give her my love).”

Having listed those definitions above and if you ask me, my personal definition of love is this:

“LOVE is something that is too great, too deep and too beautiful too be fully understood. Love is not for the weak of heart, but for the strong. Love is for those who are willing to discover it’s many expressions until they reach the highest extent that any individual can fully give or receive within his or her lifetime. Love cannot be humanly speaking, fully comprehensible…” Irmz

Why did I say that? Isn’t LOVE the reason why some men in their limited capacity to understand it are driven to addiction or obsession? Men and women alike long for this feeling to satisfy their emotions – their souls; that in some instances forces them to commit unlawful, criminal and illicit acts just to satisfy it. All because, they lived to believe that love is something to be received – something to be taken from others.

In conclusion, and to bring some light to this profound thing called love, let us ask the One who authored it, after all GOD is LOVE. 1 John 4:8

What is Love?

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What is LOVE?

“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

1 Corinthians 13 New International Version

So there you have it, the definition of LOVE in it’s highest form. May I also add and put emphasis on it that we can only draw this kind of love from God. Nowhere in this world can we search for it, and no one person – let me repeat that again – NO ONE PERSON has the capacity to give it all to us, but only a weak expression of it in part; and only if that person has also received the same from none other than JESUS.

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Childhood Conditions, Mommy Diaries

When to Seek Professional Help When Your Child is Sick?

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A healthy child puts on a good smile on his face.

Would you believe if I’d say that my son at 18 had never been admitted in the hospital? Not once? Yes, not even once. It’s not to say that I am a perfect mom or that I did not have awful days for the past 18 years. Like most moms do, I went crazy calming Josh as he kept crying during his teething period, ran around giving sponge baths for his fever after his vaccine shots, and I definitely had bouts of losing my sense of reason when he had his asthma attacks. Name them, and I’d say yeah I endured them too, but there’s nothing compared to the feeling of nurturing a child no matter how difficult it may be.

As a nurse, I give credit to my nursing teachers who taught me well, and my colleagues who gave me an avenue to enjoy teaching and  learning at the same time. Then there were the hundreds of patients who gave me an opportunity to gather a wealth of priceless experiences. All these are well kept in my treasure box. Then, I salute my mother, sister, sisters in law, mother in law and mommy friends who all modeled to me how it is to be a great  “MOM”.

I’d have to say, God has blessed me with the knowledge I need, given me the experiences that I can handle, and gifted me with wisdom from all the moms I know. As I gathered all these, I was spared some sleepless nights and anxious days from the burden of a hospital admission. It also meant that we saved some amount of money as we stayed in the comforts of our home during those difficult days.

So having been a nurse for 24 years and a mom for 18, I thought it proper to share what I learned over the past 2 decades. So, I made a summary of the things (but they are not limited to these) that need your immediate attention, and which tells you that it’s time to seek professional help.

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Telltale Warning Signs:

Infants (0 to 12 months)

  • Fever that does not disappear after 24 hours or is not associated with teething or vaccination
  • Convulsions
  • Swollen Fontanelle (the soft spot at the top of the head)
  • Rashes
  • Vomiting or Diarrhea (if it’s more than 3 times, immediately seek professional help)
  • Appears limp, flushed or pale
  • Cries a lot, irritable and is inconsolable (this is usually a sign of pain)
  • Fast Breathing
  • Has trouble swallowing and does not feed well

Older Kids (1 year old and up)

  • Fever:
    • that does not disappear after 24 hours
    • that occurs when there is no obvious reason for it
    • that can be caused by seasonal illnesses like measles, hay fever, chicken pox or hand-foot-and-mouth disease (HFMD)
    • that is not associated with a previous vaccination.
    • that is accompanied by cough and cold, stomach flu, painful urination, sore throat or other unusual symptoms
  • Rashes
  • Vomiting or Diarrhea (if it’s more than 5 times, immediately seek professional help)
  • Keeps touching or scratching particular body parts like the eyes, ears or private areas
  • Unusual lack of interest to play
  • Lack of Appetite
  • Wheezing or crackling sound with breathing especially with a history of asthma

As a rule of thumb, I’d say timely response and immediate professional care should not be delayed when there is a need for it. You as a mom should know your child well, which means a slight change in physical signs or behavior tells you a lot about his or health condition. The old cliché, “an ounce of prevention is better than cure” will keep you from a lot of trouble.

Media Credits:
Child Health: http://www.emmasdiary.co.uk/images/default-source/toddler/child-healtha43ddf84491d6e5b9e79ff0000427a78.jpg?sfvrsn=0
Childhood Diseases: http://www.newagepregnancy.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/Childhood-diseases.jpg
Keep me Home: https://littletulipsfamilychildcare.files.wordpress.com/2014/09/sick.jpg
Suddenly Ill: http://www.cobbk12.org/mccleskey/sick.jpg
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Resources:
School Children: https://www.healthychildren.org/English/tips-tools/Symptom-Checker/Pages/default.aspx

Mommy Diaries

Parents May Be Able to Lower Kids’ Autism Risk

The role of the parents is very important in combating the overgrowing cases of autism worldwide. irmz

TIME

Autism experts still disagree over a lot of things about the developmental disorder, but there is one idea that unites most of them — that the earlier the condition can be diagnosed, and the sooner interventions, from medications to behavioral therapies, can be tried, the more likely that child will be to develop normally.

The latest research, published Wednesday in the journal Lancet Psychiatry, pushes this idea even further by intervening with one of the youngest group of babies yet — those who are 7 months to 10 months old. Jonathan Green from the University of Manchester, in England, and his colleagues say that teaching parents to get more in tune with the signals coming from infants who are at high risk of developing autism can change their babies’ behavior and shift them toward a pattern of more normal development.

MORE:Autism Symptoms Disappeared With Behavioral Therapy in Babies

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My Gift

Today, as I celebrate my birthday I did some serious evaluation about my health. I found out that the last 2 months of 2014 have been very difficult for me, because of too much get together, parties and reunions. It seems to me that I gained all the weight that I tried to lose for 8 months last year. Worse is, this has been going on for the last 5 years of my life.

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Me Thinking

What do I do now? My mind and body tell me I should start a consistent healthier lifestyle this year, keep my weight on check and enjoy everything that is required to achieve them. This thought dawned on me after my last visit to my ophthalmologist who told me that I should start taking care of myself, because he saw some beginning changes around my eyes that he had not seen before. I have to mention also that I had episodes of chest heaviness and shortness of breath on 3 different occasions last year.

Honestly, as a nurse I have been so obsessed with trying to eat healthier and keeping my calorie counter for the longest time. I have tried doing exercise at least twice a week, but my problem is not in doing it, but in maintaining it. In fact, at the beginning of this year I went shopping for more fruits, vegetables, lean meat and chicken portions, plus I loaded on brown rice, healthy sugar, and wheat bread.

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My challenge now, is how I can maintain doing these without feeling obliged or compelled because of my health or my weight? I started my research and was prepared to see hundreds of advertised diets, but there were 2 that caught my attention and, which left me thinking. There was the Beyond Diet and the Paleo Burn technique among many others.

Beyond diet believes that exercise may help in weight reduction, but ultimately diet plays a major role in the body’s ability to burn fats. Paleo Burn, on the other hand, says that removing wheat and all wheat products on my diet will do the trick. Paleo says having more fiber in the body signals the hormones to store up more fat. The 2 methods talked about the role of insulin in aiding the body’s ability to burn fat. However, both their claims confused me in some way, so I dug in some of my stock knowledge as a nurse and helped myself process the information.

I decided, I cannot follow just one diet alone or worse believe in just about everything I read on the Internet. So after some serious digging here are the personal goals I have set for myself to attain:

  1. To have all my blood chemistry values in normal levels,
  2. To lose all the excess weight and fat deposits,
  3. To maintain my ideal weight and to enjoy while I keep it.
  4. To make healthy choices in diet and activities.
  5. Lastly, to live healthier so I can honor God with my body.

I think that the most important goal that will keep me going on is the thought that if I take care of my body, I will honor God and I will prove my love for my family. This means spending decades with them in my healthiest possible state.

To support my goals, here are my action plans that you might get some input from:

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  1. I will eat a healthy balanced diet based on the “old school” food pyramid, from breakfast to dinner to provide my body the nutrients it needs, and to enhance all the hormones necessary for my body systems to reach its optimum levels. It also means I will stay away from junk. Eating healthy also increases my body’s ability to burn more calories as it increases my BMR (Basal Metabolic Rate).
  2. I will exercise for an hour at least 3 times per week to strengthen my heart, and to tone my muscles that will help in burning the food I eat. Remember, the more muscles you have, the more calories you burn.
  3. I will load on water every day.
  4. I will learn cooking healthier recipes.
  5. I will have enough rest and sleep to recharge my body and to promote regeneration.
  6. I will have a regular “Me Time” to relax.
  7. I will pray more so I can manage myself in handling stress effectively.

Just a Few More Tips:

  1. The more color on your plate, the healthier it is.
  2. Pure clean water is still the best way for cleansing and hydration. Infused water is helpful too because it gives additional vitamins especially vitamin C.
  3. The calorie you take in varies depending on your age, body build and activities.
  4. The level, intensity and frequency of your exercise matters if you’re trying to lose or maintain weight.
  5. Choose an exercise that you really enjoy doing, so you can stick to it for the longest time.
  6. Spend more time in prayer; it cleanses not only your body, but also your soul and spirit.

Now, going back to the 2 diets I discovered, here is my take: balanced diet is really important, but you do not need to pay so much money just to have your meals prepared by someone. You can research and learn so many things on your own, but if you have a medical condition, you must consult a professional. Now, on the grain issue, I believe wheat has a lot of benefits for the heart, but be sure you’re eating the real thing. You should have some knowledge on reading the labels too. Lastly, insulin is a hormone thought to process only sugar, but there are research studies that show, it helps burn fat too.

So my gift to myself, my family and my God on my birthday – is my health!

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Blessed Beyond Limit

A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body. Proverbs 14:30 NLT

Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NLT

Useful Resources: Benefits of Lemon: http://learni.st/users/emily.dingmann.7/boards/14637-why-you-should-be-drinking-lemon-water-in-the-morning Profits from Cucumber: http://learni.st/users/michele.ochoa1/boards/25935-uses-for-cucumbers-that-will-amaze-you Know More About Your Grain: http://wholegrainscouncil.org/whole-grains-101/identifying-whole-grain-products Insulin Burns Carbs and Fats Too: http://www.jbc.org/content/179/1/175.full.pdf What Exercise Program Fits You: http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2010/02/01/what-burns-more-calories-cardio-intervals-or-weight-training/ Are You Underweight, Normal Weight or Overweight? Calculate Your BMI: http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/educational/lose_wt/BMI/bmicalc.htm How Much Calorie Do You Burn? Calculate Your BMR: http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/educational/lose_wt/BMI/bmicalc.htm Your Guide to Good Food (Food Pyramid/MyPlate): http://www.hsph.harvard.edu/nutritionsource/pyramid-full-story/ Bible Gateway: https://www.biblegateway.com/ Media Credits: Beyond Paleo: http://www.annlouise.com/blog/2014/09/11/beyond-paleo/ Looks like Me: http://www.freepik.com/free-photo/thinking_20689.htm Blessed: https://www.etsy.com/listing/154396246/inspirational-print-scripture-wall-art?ref=market Health Goals: http://foxborofitclub.com/nutrition/only-1-in-50-americans-meet-heart-health-goals-do-you/ Pray More, Worry Less: https://porelamoradios.wordpress.com/tag/spirituality/ Praying Hands: http://imgkid.com/woman-praying-hands.shtml Developing a Healthy Lifestyle: http://www.riverschurch.co.za/product/developing-healthy-lifestyle/

Mommy Diaries

Moms Need Nights Out Too

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Moms Need Nights Out Too

A few days ago we watched this movie “Mom’s Night Out!” A very light and funny movie but with a very important message for us women.

Oftentimes, we become so obsessed with the things we thought would make us happy only to end up frustrated and stressed out. This is so true with women. We have that idea that having a husband and kids would make our life complete. What’s worse is, in keeping up with our fairy tale notion of a happy home we try to control everyone – me included. We try to create standards to control our spouses. We do stuff to control our kids. But all of them only proves one thing – it makes us go crazy!

In our hopes of having a perfect home we often neglect the things that matter the most. Our kid’s talents that are expressed in painted walls, which are supposed to be appreciated are treated with annoyance and unnecessary anger – again, I am not excused here. This made me smile as I remember being cranky with my son over spilled water on our floor as he drinks his water.

We do so many things, create many rules that only add up to our already piled up responsibilities. We act as if we are little gods who can control people and circumstances. We often forget that we are not the one’s in control. We do not call the shots.

God in His love has already given us the blueprint when He said:

Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3:5-6

This verse is so popular, but are we really taking its meaning by heart? Trusting the Lord with all our heart may mean it’s okay that my kids are playful and make a mess of my kitchen. And when they are all grown up and still make some mistakes, we can still trust God that He allows things to happen for a reason.

Truth is, we cannot be in control of other people’s lives, the only person we can control is ourselves. In fact, even if we think we already know ourselves, we still need help in that area. Only God knows us completely and absolutely! So let us stop setting so many rules and standards that only create walls instead of ladders. Sometimes, it’s the only thing that we need – to let our hair down and to admit to ourselves we are not and can never be perfect. Sometimes, all we need is that “Me Time” to keep ourselves sane.