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Love? What is it?

It’s the last day of the month that we all popularly call the #lovemonth so I thought it worthwhile to write about something that everyone is so hooked on – LOVE. So, LOVE? What is it really?

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LOVE? What is It?

Being in the social media era, I curiously searched what Google has to say, and here are the first few searches from the thousands that came up:

From Wikipedia:

“Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure. It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment.”

From Psychology Today:

“Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of deep fulfillment.”

From Merriam Webster:

“(1): strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (maternal love for a child) (2):  attraction based on sexual desire (3): affection and tenderness felt by lovers (After all these years, they are still very much in love.) (4): affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests (love for his old schoolmates) (6): an assurance of affection (give her my love).”

Having listed those definitions above and if you ask me, my personal definition of love is this:

“LOVE is something that is too great, too deep and too beautiful too be fully understood. Love is not for the weak of heart, but for the strong. Love is for those who are willing to discover it’s many expressions until they reach the highest extent that any individual can fully give or receive within his or her lifetime. Love cannot be humanly speaking, fully comprehensible…” Irmz

Why did I say that? Isn’t LOVE the reason why some men in their limited capacity to understand it are driven to addiction or obsession? Men and women alike long for this feeling to satisfy their emotions – their souls; that in some instances forces them to commit unlawful, criminal and illicit acts just to satisfy it. All because, they lived to believe that love is something to be received – something to be taken from others.

In conclusion, and to bring some light to this profound thing called love, let us ask the One who authored it, after all GOD is LOVE. 1 John 4:8

What is Love?

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What is LOVE?

“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

1 Corinthians 13 New International Version

So there you have it, the definition of LOVE in it’s highest form. May I also add and put emphasis on it that we can only draw this kind of love from God. Nowhere in this world can we search for it, and no one person – let me repeat that again – NO ONE PERSON has the capacity to give it all to us, but only a weak expression of it in part; and only if that person has also received the same from none other than JESUS.

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My Kind of Guy

Are you looking for love? I am sure that just like me you have been betrayed, taken for granted or have been broken to pieces when the person you loved the most failed you.

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Me Thinking

In this season, a lot of people are desperate for love, and sometimes do foolish things thinking it is for love. Allow me to tell you about someone I met who turned my life around, and made me turn 180 degrees from the broken pieces of my past.

Let me begin by telling you that there is no such thing as hopeless…

As a young woman, I had a few of failed relationships. I thought that if I loved truly, it would be given in return. That if I become loyal and generous in love, my partner would reciprocate and do the same. I was wrong and not only in few occasions. In fact, I learned that if you give too much, men tend to abuse it and ask for more. As a result, I ended up broken, devastated and low self esteemed. I thought, I would never find someone who would truly love me unconditionally.

I was wrong.

You might think I am talking about my husband. Well, yes and no. My husband of course, is my greatest gift and my lifetime bonus from heaven! Human as he is like me, however, he fails me as I fail him, he misunderstands me as I misunderstand him. We both have our own shortcomings.

I am talking about someone who disproved me that taking love, asking for acceptance and demanding for intimacy will make me feel complete and happy. He made me realize that it is by giving love, showing genuine acceptance and working towards intimacy that will give me greater joy. It is not in asking, but in giving that I can truly be complete.

This guy’s name is JESUS. When I truly understood what He did on the cross, my whole mindset about life and love changed. He died for me. He gave me a clean slate when He stripped me off of all my sins. He gave me His righteousness and now overflows me with so much grace and love. Something that I never knew before and have never experienced in the past. The love that He gives me just spills like an overflowing stream, something that I can give away freely without fear of running out.

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I challenge you today to seek Him and to experience His love, so you never have to feel alone again. You have got to get to know Jesus to understand why I am so crazy in love with this Man!

Media Credits:
He Loved us First: http://proverbs31.org/
Loved: http://livingoncloud9ine.blogspot.com/2014/01/1-john-419.html

Marriage Matters

Derek Shepherd on Manhood

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Grey’s Anatomy Season 11

I have always been a fan of Shonda Rhime’s Grey’s Anatomy since the first season premiere. I remember having TV series marathons with my husband and son just to catch up with the latest episodes.

As a nurse, I find their emergency response management very realistic and updated. Well, I guess this is the nurse in me missing the Emergency Room rush. One thing that I was looking forward to and I guess everybody else as well was the outcome of the marriage and career rift between Derek Shepherd and Meredith Grey-Shepherd.

For once I thought they were giving up on their marriage for their careers. I know some people might disagree with me on this, but here are my thoughts. Derek made the right decision based on his role as a leader and as the man of the house. Technically, a man’s priority is in this order: to lead the family as God has designed it, to protect and then to provide for them.

Derek not only followed the right order of things, but also made a major personal sacrifice. He placed a premium on his family instead of a very promising career of fame at the White House. This to me is something admirable. I heard this quote a number of times from men in church who are prime movers in taking manhood back: “Do not sacrifice family in the altar of success”.

Let me be clear that I have nothing against men who work overseas and choose to sacrifice being separated with their family just to be able to provide for them. I just felt that Derek did the best option. It is best in his circumstance because Derek already had a following in his current job and did not have to desire for more.

Now let me talk about Meredith, but then again, this is my personal opinion. I feel it would have been more in the order of things if she had given it a more serious thought if she considered Derek’s interest in mind. In that way she would respect her spouse and support his lead. In the order of things, Meredith’s priority as God designed it is: to submit to God and then submit to her husband, to be a suitable helper for him and to be the manager of her family.

Her career is optional because Derek is a good provider. It doesn’t mean though that she puts her own career aside. It is good that Derek allows her to pursue it, but in the order of priority, her husband and her children comes first and then her career. Meredith already saw how her mother’s career tore her family apart, broke her marriage and left her scarred as a child.

Lastly, I know many women today are pushed to lead and to pursue a career because they feel they are equal with men. In the course of things, however, these women take on the role that men should be doing. As an effect men either become complacent or emancipated because of the over rule. In both scenarios it destroys the family.

My take on this, both the man and his wife should decide as a team and think not as separate beings, but decide on what’s best for the entire family.

Resources

Grey’s Anatomy: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0413573/
Act Like a Man: http://www.actlikeaman.org/