A few days ago we watched this movie “Mom’s Night Out!” A very light and funny movie but with a very important message for us women.
Oftentimes, we become so obsessed with the things we thought would make us happy only to end up frustrated and stressed out. This is so true with women. We have that idea that having a husband and kids would make our life complete. What’s worse is, in keeping up with our fairy tale notion of a happy home we try to control everyone – me included. We try to create standards to control our spouses. We do stuff to control our kids. But all of them only proves one thing – it makes us go crazy!
In our hopes of having a perfect home we often neglect the things that matter the most. Our kid’s talents that are expressed in painted walls, which are supposed to be appreciated are treated with annoyance and unnecessary anger – again, I am not excused here. This made me smile as I remember being cranky with my son over spilled water on our floor as he drinks his water.
We do so many things, create many rules that only add up to our already piled up responsibilities. We act as if we are little gods who can control people and circumstances. We often forget that we are not the one’s in control. We do not call the shots.
God in His love has already given us the blueprint when He said:
Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3:5-6
This verse is so popular, but are we really taking its meaning by heart? Trusting the Lord with all our heart may mean it’s okay that my kids are playful and make a mess of my kitchen. And when they are all grown up and still make some mistakes, we can still trust God that He allows things to happen for a reason.
Truth is, we cannot be in control of other people’s lives, the only person we can control is ourselves. In fact, even if we think we already know ourselves, we still need help in that area. Only God knows us completely and absolutely! So let us stop setting so many rules and standards that only create walls instead of ladders. Sometimes, it’s the only thing that we need – to let our hair down and to admit to ourselves we are not and can never be perfect. Sometimes, all we need is that “Me Time” to keep ourselves sane.